Domestic Violence

I really hate seeing women, especially ones I know, stay with a man who treats them like dirt. I'm not judging and I'm not a hypocrit. I have been there, and I still suffer from the consequences every day. But it's hard to watch someone go through it and not be able to help them.
A woman in that situation can only be helped if they understand the problem, and if they want to be helped. I didn't want help, or more accurately, I didn't know how to ask. I had a lot of pride and although my parents would have come running the second I called, I didn't want to admit the situation I'd gotten myself into.
What I think a lot of women believe that it's not abuse if they are being hit, which is totally untrue. Mental and emotional abuse is just as severe as physical abuse.
Kids. Kids are not a reason to stay in a hostile relationship, ever. They perceive so much more than we think. By staying in that relationship you are letting him hurt the kids, emotionally, by letting him hurt you. You are NOT protecting your kids by taking it all on yourself.
The most important thing to learn in this situation is that he will NEVER change. No matter how hard he says he will change, no matter how hard you try, there's no hope. It took me a long time to realize that. After every broken promise, after every fight, he never changed. It took months for me to convince myself that leaving him was the right thing to do. He tried, and almost succeeded, daily to convince me to go back to him. It took incredible strength, a lot of energy, and an amazing support system to finally let him go and find myself again. I can only hope that those who I watch suffer can have the same outcome.

If you know someone who's in a hostile relationship talk to them. Let them know it's ok. Let them know they can talk to you. Help them help themselves.

-Megan K.

Contest

Just in case you hadn't heard, HP Mallory, author of the Jolie Wilkins books and Dulcie O'Neil books is at it again! She is running a contest to win a spot as a character in her upcoming Jolie Wilkins book, Be Witched. So please, head on over to http://urbanfantasyauthor.blogspot.com and find out how to enter!

-Megan K.

So, brand new blog! I decided to create a separate blog from my poetry blog. This way I can ramble on and on here, and not clog up the feed for those who simply want to read my poetry. What a pain in the butt it was to create a whole new blog, and pardon the generic look for now. I created the blog on my phone, and although I'm tech savvy, web design via cell phone is not my forte. I have, however, linked this blog to a nifty Blogger app on my phone so I can post from anywhere! Assuming that I have my phone, that is.

If you're just now joining me on this adventure let me bring you up to speed. I am a young mom, full time employee,  and part time student. I'm going to school for my bachelor's in Elementary Education with an emphasis in English. My newest endeavour is writing my first novel. It has no name yet, and I don't know yet what genre it will fall into. What I CAN tell you is the basis of the story. Charlotte Pierce is a 23 year old waitress at a small downtown (haven't picked a city) diner. She comes from a small town and a relatively normal childhood, that is except for her ability to feel exactly what someone else is feeling simply by touching them. That's right, Charlotte is an Empath. She's been one her whole life and has managed to live quite normally despite it, until now. The night she meets Rory O'Malley, a vampire with charming good looks and Empath abilities, she discovers there's an emotion eating demon on the loose and the emotion channeling Empaths are her favorite snack. Can the last two Empaths in existence outrun the demon, or will they meet their end?

That's the story line so far. The story pretty much writes itself so there's a good chance some things could change. :)

Well, thanks for checking out my blog and happy Friday the 13th!

-Megan K.